Negotiating a divorce settlement
It's easy to understand why anger figures prominently in a divorce. Promises are broken, trust is betrayed, feelings are hurt, hearts are broken. "Anger is a common component of a failed marriage," says Justin A. Reckers, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, or CDFA, and managing director of Pacific Divorce Management in San Diego. "Letting anger cloud your view of the largest financial transaction of your life is a deadly sin."
Individuals and couples should work to remove anger from their financial negotiations, advises Reckers, whose firm specializes in the practice of collaborative divorce, bringing parties together to avoid divorce court. "Parties who find the ability to negotiate the end of their marriage without anger will find themselves with more emotional and economic resources left after the divorce is finalized."