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Talking beats the alternative
The long list of things you'll want to discuss and sort out include retirement plans, health care, buying a house, starting a family and how you're both going to handle all that together.
"Doesn't sound all that romantic, does it? Thakor disagrees.
"The bigger buzz kill is divorce," she says. "If you really care about this person, you should care enough to talk about these awkward issues. Money is the last taboo, but if you can settle those issues, you're in good shape. My husband tells me he thinks our marriage is stronger because we talk about these issues and have no financial secrets."