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Top 10 things to do
before you turn 30
By Cynthia
E. Brodrick Bankrate.com
Enjoy your youth, be wild and get it out of your
system; here are the 10 things you should accomplish before 30.
Sitting here on the dark side of 30, I've been looking
back fondly on my wild and woolly youth -- though some might describe
it as mild and cottony. Anyway, I thought I would share some of
my observations and opinions on important things to accomplish in
those twentysomething years.
The things to accomplish during your 20s fulfill a
few requirements:
- Doing your youth when you're young. There's nothing
more embarrassing than some 50-year-old with his thinning gray
hair pulled into a ponytail trying to re-live his youth. Get it
out of your system now.
- No regrets. If you do the silly stuff when you
are young, then later you won't regret what you might have missed.
- Good stories. Have some good times now, so you
can regale your children with tales of your crazy youth.
- Growing up. The point of your 20s is to reach your
30s -- and by then, people will really be expecting you to act
like a grown-up. So, you will need some experiences to teach you
how to get there.
Don't panic: You can be hip when you're older -- it's
just a different kind of hip. You'll understand when you get there.
1. Drive a wickedly cool car, even if you
have to rent it. "Wickedly cool" is defined as any car that
turns heads on the streets. They say life is a journey and you should
enjoy the ride. Well, if that's the case, you might as well ride
in style at least once. The best I ever did was a 6-year-old convertible,
but hey, I was riding in style in Miami Beach.
2. Date against type. Better yet, date
somebody "dangerous." Waking up tied to a bed with a person who
has more tattoos than brains will give you stories to regale other
members of the old-age home in your dotage. Also, dating "dangerous"
types will make you realize what jerks they are -- and make you
less likely to pass up a lifelong love affair with someone you're
really compatible with.
Or if you already tend to date dangerous, then
date someone your mother would like. What the heck, she might be right.
Similarly, I recommend dating someone much older
than you. My age limit was no one older than my dad. Since he was
19 when I was born, I actually came pretty close twice. I learned
a bit about mature relationships, appreciated someone with life
experience ... and got to go to more-expensive restaurants!
3. See the world. It's much easier to
do when you're 22 and footloose than 35 with two bawling babies
in your backpack. Even if you never leave the United States, you'll
see a good portion of the planet. Go cheap and travel light. This
leaves you open to more adventures. Youth hostels are inexpensive
and, even better, you'll meet tons of other adventurers there.
Seeing the world will broaden your horizons and make
you a more interesting person. Plus interesting and funny things
happen when you travel -- and remember, your 20s are your time to
live the stories that you'll be telling for the rest of your life.
I still talk about the three months I spent after college
driving through the Southwest United States. I worked as a volunteer
at a National Park, visited the Grand Canyon twice and saw Muhammad
Ali in Las Vegas, slept in my car at a highway rest area. I have
more memories from that short time than from the next five years
of work.
4. Live in a cool place. Maybe a loft
in a trendy neighborhood "in transition," maybe just camped out
on the beach in your van. I'm fond of the six months
I lived on a sailboat when I was 25. Just think: no air conditioning,
a lousy bathroom, mildew and lack of privacy. Yet everyone thought
I was living some glamorous life. Later I lived in a one-bedroom
apartment, and really appreciated the space. I still didn't have
air conditioning but I was a 20-minute walk from the beach. Comfort
isn't quite as important in your 20s as later –- take advantage of
that fact.
5. If you're going to drink a lot, do it
when you're young. Getting sick on cheap white wine after 30
is pretty pathetic. Young drunks sometimes get away with being "cute,"
though you may still have a lot of apologizing to do. Get this experimentation
out of your system and you'll appreciate finer spirits when you
get older.
6. Take risks with your job. I've noticed
that most people end up changing direction in their careers after
their 20s anyway, so, take the time to figure out what you want
to do. There will be time enough to be a cubicle drone later.
Aim for the career you've dreamed of doing. If you
have a chance to be a model or a dancer, go for it. Get the job
in the big city. Volunteer to work on the big project that could
make or break the company. Start up a smoothie business with your
college buddy.
Or just have fun for now. You might want to be a bartender
at the hottest club in town and pick up a lot of dates. Or take
a low-paying job at the zoo just because you like animals. Later,
when you've got the mortgage and 2.3 kids and a time share in Cocoa
Beach, fun will be the last thing on your mind at the office. My
husband still talks about having worked on a railroad on Mount Washington
because it was a lot more fun than sitting at a desk every
day as he does now.
7. Do something physically adventurous.
And do it OUTSIDE! No one will ever be remembered for playing Nintendo
or watching every single episode of "Friends." Enjoy your body while
you're young, push it to its limits -– soon enough, you'll watch
your muscles turn to flab and your rear end inflate like a rubber raft.
8. Take your parents to dinner. You'll
probably have to struggle with your dad about paying the check,
but this is one of those grown-up things to do. It gives you a chance
to show your parents that you are an equal and that you are responsible.
It's also a chance to show your appreciation for all those dinners
they bought over the years.
9. Do volunteer work. You may be broke,
but you can give your sweat and earnestness to a cause in which you believe.
In addition to improving your world, you can allow yourself to be exposed
to others in the world. Work in a soup kitchen and you'll appreciate
your un-air-conditioned, one-bedroom apartment.
10. Use this decade to go to extremes.
Climb the tallest mountain you can find. Picnic at midnight. Learn
to sail. Talk to strangers. Road trip to New Orleans for Mardi Gras.
Take a midnight drive to the beach -– then stick around for dawn.
Sounds like your 20s are pretty fun.
But don't think this means the rest of your life will
be a drag. My point is to take advantage of what you have: energy,
idealism, enthusiasm, a willingness to experiment, a lack of encumbrances,
a desire to learn and grow. Enjoy your 20s -- and you'll be better
able to appreciate the next stage.
-- Updated: March 23, 2004
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