What she really wants for Valentine's Day
us women, the signs of the season are clear: Red paper hearts, white
doilies and heart-shaped boxes of chocolate are popping up everywhere.
Everywhere we turn, we see ads for luscious red roses, sparkling
diamonds and romantic getaways for two.
So why the heck aren't men paying the least amount
Sadly, Valentine's Day is a holiday that seems to
give many men that deer-in-the-headlights look in their eyes. They
freeze, sure danger is imminent, but aren't quite sure which way
We have four words for you, gentlemen: Get with the
program. Whatever your romance barometer, Romeo, one thing you cannot
do is ignore Feb. 14. The ramifications, if you know what I mean,
may not go away for a long, long time. No one expects you to go
broke in the process, but you need to put forth some effort.
Go ahead and embrace it. Here's how (and why).
It's all about the "R"
Valentine's Day is a time to create the romance that too often gets
pushed aside in the frazzle of day-to-day living. It's not, "Here's
a box of chocolates, babe," and then plopping down in front
of the tube to search out the latest sports happening.
No, no, no. Women adore romance; we're irresistibly
drawn to it. You know the fairy-tale kind -- where the handsome
prince courts the lovely lady and spends his entire evening showering
her with his attention and praise. Courtship, attention, praise
... the reaffirmation that she's still your lovely lady.
We know that love isn't measured in pounds of chocolate,
arm-loads of roses or dazzling arrays of diamonds (of course, not
many of us would put up a huge fight over the diamond-part). But,
the key to Valentine's Day lies in making her the recipient of a
sincere expression of love -- oh yes, spiced with flair and a romantic
Make her feel like a queen. You can't go wrong if
you remember the day's central theme -- it's all about her!
Carats too costly?
Showering your special Valentine with attention doesn't have to
leave a black hole in your pocket. After all, it's the thought that
really counts. But, if you are on a limited budget and want to be
her knight in shining armor, we have some ideas.
Here are seven romantic-do-it-yourself projects.
1. Love at daybreak
Get an early start showing your undying love and affection. While
she's still curled up in bed, prepare a continental breakfast in
bed -- coffee, orange juice, toasted bagel with cream cheese, and
fruit cup. She'll enjoy it even more if you gently nudge her awake,
and deliver it with a flourish and smile. Think gallant!
2. Save money ... skip the Hallmark!
Take pen in hand and become Don Juan. Write her a love letter reminiscent
of your courtship. This is where the sincere expression of your
love plays a big role, gentlemen, and earns you big kudos. Lavish
her with love and praise -- go ahead, it's all free!
3. One long-stem rose
Okay, conjure up this special evening at home -- candles, soft music,
set table and one long-stem rose across her dinner plate. Tonight
you're the chef.
If the kitchen is unfamiliar territory, you'll need
to start your planning early. But even if dinner's out-of-the-box,
she'll appreciate the break from her normal routine. Oh, and one
piece of delectable chocolate with a cup of coffee would be a nice
Don't forget about the clean-up.
4. Movie night at ... home
Create a cozy atmosphere at home -- ambience, ambience, ambience.
Pick up a newly-released movie or her favorite oldie -- yes, even
if it means smiling through Gone with
the Wind. You pop the corn, fix the sodas, puff-up the sofa
pillows and bring out the warm, fuzzy blanket.
Just remember the theme (psst ... it's all about
her!), and stay away from the war or sport flicks -- unless that
happens to be her favorite, too.
5. Let her have the control
So, you didn't have time to pick up that video. Don't worry! This
tip topped our polls -- let her control the TV remote for the night.
While this might amount to watching an entire show,
rather than channel surfing and watching three programs at the same
time, the novelty will surprise your wife. Oh, and don't forget
the popcorn, sodas, puffed-up pillows and warm, fuzzy blanket.
6. A romantic stroll ... just
the two of you
This is for the family man -- you'll need to arrange for a baby
sitter. This stroll might be through a favorite park or with no
particular destination in mind. The key here, gentlemen, is not
setting out to "conquer the trip."
Think in terms of stroll, chat, window shop, stroll,
chat ... set a slow pace. Treat her to a coffee, hot chocolate
or other favorite drink. And remember to hold her hand and that
kisses are free!
7. Foot massage ... aahh
This time bypass the gift certificate, and let her relax at home.
Okay, here's the routine: soak her feet in hot water
with scented salts, scrub her heels with a pumice stone, then dry
them with a fluffy towel. Wait, there's more -- you need to finish
by massaging her feet with a scented lotion.
Too much for your senses? Go ahead, set an appointment
for a professional foot massage, but you drop her off and pick her
C'mon, Romeo, You can do it!
-- Posted: Feb. 8, 2002