Key takeaways

  • On average, men have more debt than women across all categories, except for student loans.
  • While there isn’t much data yet, early studies have shown that nonbinary students undergo more financial strain than their cisgender peers, and are more likely to have student loan debt.
  • Although it has narrowed in recent years, there's still a pay gap between the genders, which affects women's ability to build wealth long term.

It’s hard to believe that in 2023 there’s still no law requiring that men and women be paid equal wages for equal work. According to the U.S. Department of labor, the average American woman has to work 15 months to earn the same amount a man earns in a year.

Women who work full-time are paid about 83.7 percent of a man’s salary, resulting in a $10,000 difference per year — a gap that only widens for women of color and women with disabilities.

For nonbinary individuals and other members of the LGBTQ+ community, data isn’t as robust. One study from the Ohio State University found that transgender and nonbinary students reported higher average financial strain and were more likely to have student loans than cisgender students.

With gaps this stark, it shouldn’t come as a surprise that there’s also a difference in how much debt each gender has.

Differences in the finances by gender

Statistics only tell a small part of the story regarding finances. Someone’s ability to manage their money, credit, debt and investments has nothing to do with the chromosomes they were born with or their gender expression. External factors and societal pressure play a large role in finances.

On average, women are still responsible for the lion’s share of caregiving, including childcare and helping elderly parents, negatively impacting their lifetime earning potential. Women also tend to be more negatively impacted financially by divorce. By contrast, men feel socially pressured to exude wealth and status regardless of their success and frequently go into debt to keep up appearances.

Nonbinary and trans individuals who routinely lack family support and have to take on more debt when starting than their cisgender peers. It also wasn’t until 2020 that federal protections were put in place to prevent housing discrimination based on gender identity. These factors can combine to put nonbinary individuals in greater debt than men or women.

Borrowing

Experian compared debt balances among men and women and found that, on average:

  • Men have 2% more credit card debt than women.
  • Men have 20% more personal loan debt than women.
  • Men have 16.3% more auto loan debt than women.
  • Men have 9.7% more mortgage debt than women.
  • Women have 2.7% more student loan debt than men.

Credit scores

The Federal Reserve conducted an extensive analysis of the credit scores of thousands of men and women. They found that among men and women of similar ages, men and women have nearly identical credit scores, but the average man’s score is slightly higher.

There is no robust data yet differentiating the credit scores of nonbinary individuals.

Spending

Spending tends to be closely correlated with income, with higher earners spending more.

The Bureau of Labor Statistics’s latest Consumer Expenditure survey, found that the average single woman earned $39,178 and spent $38,838, while the average single male earned $49,525 and spent $41,203. The breakdown of spending by category is shown below.

Type of spending Single woman Single man
Food $4,446 $4,816
Housing $16,223 $15,562
Apparel and services $1,080 $842
Transportation $4,621 $6,469
Healthcare $3,747 $2,845
Entertainment $1,694 $2,197

Cost of living, family size and other factors all play a role in income and expenditures. There is also no data from the Bureau of Labor Statistics breaking down income and expenses for nonbinary individuals.

Investing

A study commissioned by BNY Mellon Investment Management, found that if women invested at the same rate as men, there would be more than an extra $3 trillion in assets under management today. BNY lists the gender pay gap and a lack of engagement among women as key factors for this investment gap. Women can’t invest money when they don’t make enough to keep up with the cost of living today.

Do lenders consider gender when making decisions?

No, a lender cannot consider your gender or gender identity when making decisions.

The Fair Housing Act prevents discrimination in mortgage lending, specifically based on race, color, national origin, religion, sex, gender identity and sexual orientation, disability and family status.

The Equal Credit Opportunity Act prohibits discrimination in all types of lending based on race, color, national origin, sex, marital status, age or participation in public assistance programs.

Before the Equal Credit Opportunity Act of 1974, lenders were allowed to require women to have a male co-signer before approving a loan. Before 1974, it was nearly impossible for women to build credit, buy homes or take out loans to start a business without a man agreeing to help them. While the act did make this discrimination illegal, prejudices from this era still carry forward.

What should you do if you think you are being discriminated against financially because of your gender?

If you feel you’re being discriminated against financially because of your gender or gender identity, try to gather as much evidence as possible. Take notes and record conversations if you’re in a state that allows one-party consent for recordings. Try to keep communications to a written medium like emails for better tracking.

Once you’ve gathered your evidence, submit a complaint through the proper channels, depending on your situation:

  • For housing discrimination, including mortgage lending and rental price discrimination: File a complaint through the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development here.
  • For credit discrimination including loans, mortgages and credit cards: File a complaint through the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau here.
  • For any type of discrimination: File a report with the U.S. Department of Justice’s Civil Rights Division here.

Your state, county or city may also have a civil rights division you can file complaints with, so it’s important to check.

Bottom line

What is or isn’t in your pants has no scientific bearing on your ability to manage money, but societal expectations and gender norms still affect your income and can pressure you to spend or borrow in a certain way. We’ve come a long way from 1974 when women couldn’t get their own credit cards and 2020 when nonbinary people could be charged more for housing, but we still have a long way to go.