Meet and marry the rich
You don't need money or great looks to find yourself
a rich beau.
Marla Trump did it. Roxanne Pulitzer did it, too and
so did Tom Arnold. All three are well-known examples of middle-class
folks who met and married wealthy people. Face it, most of us aren't
going to make a fortune at our jobs. That's why living with someone
who's already rich may be your only option if you want to experience
the jet set lifestyle. Sounds impossible? Not really. You'll be
convinced of this once you realize that finding a rich mate is more
a matter of knowing where to search and how to act rather than what
you look like.
Finding a sugar daddy or sugar momma
scenario: You've grown tired of living paycheck to paycheck so you
set out to find someone who's going to pamper you like the royal
you claim to have been in a past lifetime. But how can you meet
rich people if you're on a tight budget? The first step is to live
close to where the wealthy live even if that means making some sacrifices,
according to Ginie Polo Sayles, author of "How to Marry the Rich."
"You must live where the rich live even if you have
to live in a little shoe box," says Sayles, head of Ginie Sayles
Enterprises in Houston. "When you live among the rich, you are able
to absorb their value systems and the other subtleties that let
you relate to their way of life."
Sayles, a former stockbroker now married to a millionaire,
believes that frequenting the same supermarkets, coffee shops and
restaurants as your potential mate will give you the perfect opportunity
to mingle with the rich. Walking your dog or jogging in a wealthy
neighborhood are two more ways of getting noticed by wealthy singles
that won't cost you anything.
You may also
want to consider using your job or athletic skill as a key to unlock
the marital bank. She suggests that men and women take part-time
jobs at country clubs or other places where the rich hang out. Pro
golfer Lee Trevino's wife was working at a concession stand when
she met him at a charity tournament, according to Sayles.
Jocks that teach golf, sailing or tennis classes can
use that time to schmooze with the financially elite. However, Sayles
warns fortune seekers to stay away from jobs where they'll have
to wear a uniform because it creates a psychological status barrier
that some wealthy individuals may not wish to cross.
Professional jobs in fields such as securities trading,
real estate sales, banking and insurance sales can also introduce
you to money movers. But don't give up hope if you're not likely
to meet the Elizabeth Taylors or Steve Forbes of this world through
your job. Lisa Johnson, author of How to Snare a Millionaire,
says that charities offer you an opportunity to help others as well
as yourself in the process.
"The best place of all to meet millionaires is at
charity events," says Johnson, a freelance journalist in Salt Lake
City. "These are the kind of millionaires that you'd like to meet
because they'll be at those events giving something back to the
community. Volunteering at these events means that you'll have access
to the guest list and where people are going to be sitting. If you're
volunteering then you also get in for free. Tickets for some of
these events can be $500 or more."
The next step in securing a lasting relationship with
a wealthy partner involves learning the rules of behavior that go
along with being courted by the rich and famous. Johnson, who claims
to have received more than 50 marriage proposals from millionaires
but still remains single, believes that downplaying the importance
of money is a key to landing a rich lover.
"It's important that you not focus on their money
because they're always worried that some gold digger will take it
from them," says Johnson. "Act almost as if the money means nothing
to you. Don't ask questions such as 'What did that cost?' or 'How
much did you make?' Gifts are OK as long as you let the person know
that the gifts come with no strings attached. Never accept money
or they'll never respect you."
Linda Barbanel, a New York City-based social worker
and author of "Sex, Money & Power: How to Keep $ from Sabotaging
Your Relationships," agrees that making money your primary marriage
requirement will create future problems. She thinks that greed is
a sign of a manipulative or dependent type of person who needs to
be taken care of by others.
"It warps your soul and your being by looking only
for money," says Barbanel. "The love of money is not a healthy characteristic
when it comes to relationships."
Chastity pays off
Here are a
few more of tips for dating the rich man or woman of your dreams:
- Don't sleep with them right away. Johnson
suggests, "Not sleeping with them is attractive because there
are not many people who will say no to them. You can probably
get a proposal within three months by not sleeping with them.
It drives them mad with desire. They want someone who's special,
not someone who sleeps around."
- Don't turn into a servant. Says Sayle,
"Don't do things that they can get someone else to do. I knew
of a wealthy woman who had her young boyfriend run errands, work
in her yard and act as a bartender at her parties. She then began
to speak of him as a houseboy rather than as her lover."
- Sign a prenuptial agreement. Johnson
advises, "A good prenuptial can be your friend. Rather than being
offended by being asked to signed one, be happy because it can