Many people who choose wealth over "stuff" wouldn't consider spending money on the "latest and greatest" because they know their money can be put to better use elsewhere. Buying a "liability" would probably cause them stress because they'd rather buy an asset -- something that will appreciate over time and give them a return on their investment.
Flurry says he has a hard time getting some of his older clients to spend their money.
"They've been savers all their lives and the thought of spending $5,000 or $10,000 on a vacation is ridiculous; it doesn't matter that they're worth $3 million. They're really the last Depression generation and it's burned in their memory that they need to squirrel away money."
Paring it all down, we've come up with 7 steps to becoming wealthy. Remember, wealth is relative, it doesn't necessarily mean "millionaire." The goal for many people is financial independence, says Stewart Welch of The Welch Group in Birmingham, Alabama.
"That's the point in time when your cash flow from investments is equal to or greater than your income from work. Look at the statistics: 95% of the population never achieves financial independence. For 65% of retirees, Social Security is their largest source of retirement income."
The No. 1 reason people don't achieve financial independence, says Welch, is they don't have a written financial plan. That is step 1 on the path toward financial freedom.
1. Develop a written financial plan
Saying you want to be wealthy isn't good enough. You need to come up with a workable plan and put it on paper.
"The written plan forces you to do something," Welch says. "Calculate what you need to earn and how to invest. The plan isn't just the goal, it's the whole thing -- the dream, the goals, the options. The options are scenario planning -- all the ways you can accomplish that goal -- open a Roth IRA, contribute to a 401(k).
2. Save, save, save
The end result of your financial plan should be systematic investment. Get in the habit of saving money. Build an emergency fund in a money market account so you don't have to raid the rest of your savings and investments when there's an unexpected major expense. Make it a point to save at least half of every pay raise.
3. Live below your means
Don't be a walking billboard for overpriced designer clothes, shoes, sunglasses or jewelry. Don't allow your house or car payments to be budget-busters.
4. Lay off the credit
Some people say that if you can eat it or wear it, don't put it on your credit card. That's good advice, but take it further. Try not putting anything on your cards that you can't pay off in 2 or 3 months. You need only 1 or 2 credit cards. If you have a fistful, pay them off. Remember, debt holds you back.
"It reduces cash flow for other things, including investing," says Welch. "If no one gave you money to borrow, you'd be better off and the economy would be smaller. If they only let you borrow 75% of the value of your home, you'd be a heck of a lot better off."
5. Make your money work for you
It takes money to make money, but that doesn't mean you need a lot to invest. Open an account with a mutual fund company that has no-load funds and low expense ratios. Build a diverse portfolio and you can reasonably expect to earn 8% to 10% annually on your investments over the long haul.
6. Start your own business
In the 1996 book "The Millionaire Next Door: The Surprising Secrets of America's Wealthy," the authors state that two-thirds of the millionaires are self-employed, with 75% of them entrepreneurs, and the remainder professionals, such as doctors and accountants.
Forget inheriting a pot of money; entrepreneurs create most of the wealth in the country. Most millionaires in the making, 8 out of 10, earned or increased their assets on their own, a 2015 survey by Fidelity Investments found. That's true for millionaires and millionaires 10-times over, as well.
7. Get professional advice
A good financial planner can help you fill your portfolio with the right investments and dump the wrong ones. You don't need to relinquish control, but you do need to form a good working relationship with someone who has expertise in this complicated area.
Not quite half of the individuals with $250,000 of investable assets surveyed by Fidelity in 2015 work with a financial adviser. But 71% of those with deca-millionaire-status have a financial adviser.
Maybe finding the right adviser could tip the scales toward 7 figures. If you can't afford to have a financial planner manage your money, many of them will review your portfolio and make recommendations for a one-time fee.