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They say it's the thought that counts, but buyers beware: Valentine's Day is not so much about giving a gift as it is about giving the right gift.
This year, with everyone watching their budgets,
the right gift will be harder to choose. And retailers' lists for
gifts to win your honey's heart are as plentiful as arrows in Cupid's
quiver.
But before you hastily fire off any one of them, make sure it's not a poison arrow.
"There are more fights and breakups on this day than
any other day. Expectations are high. Everyone is looking for confirmation
of the level and amount of love (felt toward them)," says Nancy
D. O'Reilly, a clinical psychologist and founder of the WomenSpeak
Project, which educates and supports women in the experience of
growing older.
Even a seemingly harmless, traditional gift can backfire. No matter what stage your relationship is in, you should think twice before picking any of these 15 not-so-sweet gifts this Valentine's Day.
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Your intentions are good but closing your eyes to your sweetheart's needs and desires could mean a kiss goodbye.
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New relationship no-nos:
Going over the top: If it's not
a mutual love, don't fork out $300 or more for a spa treatment
or a weekend away, says etiquette expert Colleen A. Rickenbacher.
You could end up being ancient history before the mud pack dries
on her face.
Leaping for love: Avoid gifts that
suggest a leap in couple-dom. Opening up a couples massage certificate
or something like an appliance -- that suggests too much of a
relationship fast-forward -- is a definite no-no, O'Reilly says.
Feeding your passion: Psychotherapist
and family/relationship therapist Stacy Kaiser recalls a man who
loved cherry pie. He thought its red color would make it an ideal
Valentine's Day gift. His date was offended by his choosing something
HE liked rather than asking for her preferences. But that wasn't
the only problem, Kaiser says, "She was allergic to cherries!"
Love in bloom: Flowers at work may
be a nice gesture, but being on the receiving end can be overwhelming
and embarrassing. "Fight the urge to buy him flowers at work,
along with 1,400 balloons," O'Reilly advises women. And for men,
sending a "boatload of flowers" can be too much, especially for
a woman who doesn't like being the center of attention.
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