On the other hand, reverse mortgage loan lenders stress the importance of spending the money responsibly, says Reza Jahangiri, CEO of American Advisors Group, or AAG, a lender that does only reverse mortgage loans.
"We want to make sure the seniors understand that once they get the reverse mortgage loan, just as if they had gotten a cash-out refi or a home equity line, not to go spend all of those proceeds in a discretionary way," Jahangiri says. "It's not to go get five trips to Europe or go to Las Vegas and blow the money."
Her daughter's role
Mayo was the sole borrower.
She has a daughter, who doesn't want to own the house one day.
"I knew that my daughter would not live in my house, and what was the point of me having this house if she was not going to live in it? So I thought, well, instead of her spending my money, why don't I spend my own money?" she says with a laugh.
“I knew that my daughter would not live in my house. ... I thought, well, instead of her spending my money, why don't I spend my own money?”
That conclusion was informed by her volunteer work for hospice. She "realized that all those things that all these people that are passing on are cherishing, are no value to anybody else other than the person that's passing on."
Mayo informed her daughter of her plan, and her daughter was fine with it.
Reverse mortgage loan lenders say it's a good idea to involve your offspring, even before applying for the loan.
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"We encourage everybody who is involved in the process to bring in everyone involved," says Paul Fiore, executive vice president of sales for AAG.
Advice to prospective borrowers
Mayo has friends in their 80s and 90s, and when the subject of reverse mortgage loans comes up, "I just want them to go for it -- to go ahead and use the money if they want to travel or if they want to do things," she says.
"Live in the now. Don't save it for somebody else who's not going to really value or appreciate it."
Photo courtesy of Lisa Mayo
When her friends say they don't have enough money to do what they want, "I go, like, 'If your house is paid for, or you've only got a few more dollars to pay it off, just go ahead and not worry about paying the house anymore. Just as long as you pay your insurance and your taxes, then use that money for something else."
Again, her volunteer work for hospice guides her philosophy about seizing the day. "The last thing that anybody should ever do is regret what they haven't done, and just leave it for their children."
Once you get a reverse mortgage loan, here's Mayo's advice: "Not to spend it all in one place."
The loan process
After doing a lot of online research, Mayo applied for a reverse mortgage loan from AAG. She says she kept asking her loan officer variants of the same question over and over: If she got a reverse mortgage loan, would she be signing away her house? The answer is "no," but she needed to hear that repeatedly.
"I wanted to make sure I was making the right decision, for one thing, and my fear was that somebody would take away my house," she says. "What if I got sick and my daughter wouldn't be able to pay it? So those were the concerns that I had. And he kept reassuring me. I admired him so much because he was so patient with me, and so very kind."
“I admired (the loan officer) so much because he was so patient with me, and so very kind.”
She completed the required housing counseling.
It didn't make a strong impression: She thinks the counseling was conducted over the phone. Her memories of the conversations with the loan officer are more vivid.
Having the reverse mortgage loan
The proceeds of the reverse mortgage loan continue to give Mayo the flexibility to produce plays for teens and young adults on the subject of domestic violence.
And she gets to remain in her home.
"I love coming into my house and saying, 'This is mine,'" she says. "I have a beautiful home, I have a beautiful pool, I have a beautiful view, I live up in the hills."
“I love coming into my house and saying, 'This is mine.'”
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